"It's not that you are happy. I want to be happy."
The quote is from a lover, expressed in a dispute over his partner. A few - I think - say it, but basically it is all about. It's about the happiness in life anyway, but in the love and the relationship even more. Man want to be happy. I think it's a good attitude, biological and human. The man is in his biology closer than selfishness than altruism creatures.
But I think there is an exception. I am firm supporter of the theory that no matter how many partners they had in his life, how many people one knows what one is doing does not matter. Out there somewhere is the one match. Of which there is exactly one. No more, maybe less. Perhaps there are people that have no counterpart, yes, but I think more than one partner in a positive not exist. Whether and now it comes from the same neighborhood, the same place, same country, let alone the same continent is questionable. I wonder sometimes that it's nonsense "to look out" to the One. After all, who tells me that I do not meet the woman I want to share with the rest of my life while I'm on safari in South Africa? That a suitable counterpart. The full Ergängzung. The person you can not scare, where you do no wrong, who loves what you hate yourself as such. Fills where it lacks a self. The one who completes.
And I think that's what the man at just this one man gives way to the principle of one's own happiness, biological selfishness' of the full devotion. To learn That, my idea is radical the Dar. point in life, if you meet these people, you know in which direction it goes. It? Everything. Also what was previously without direction, is still open. Even if you always went out of it, one is even around (= / = Next) then you will be free to withdraw for a view that is important. The career is no more vital future, it is rather basic condition for life with this man. Their own talents are no longer based on the self. This also takes place, he or she is a. But more important than these trivialities are the more abstract things.
happiness for example. Not my own. Contrary to all biology, so my belief is, by the meeting with the one man, one conviction, that his own happiness does not depend on the fulfillment of his desires and dreams makes. Do not assume that if you look back in 50 years and we think no error was made. All this is becoming less important. What counts is the happiness in the abstract person. And in all facets. In extreme cases, this means circumcised his own happiness to that, to promote the partner. And love is always an extreme case. But to do that, to many people I met too vain and selfish. They prefer to stay longer in the relationship, than to draw a line and the partner will be happy to part again completely to leave. But this one - my Überzeung - is if this person comes into our lives, we think different. We forget what we have learned, we forget what we want. What matters is to see these people laugh - and cry even if we have it. It is my firm conviction.
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